I often use a forum on the http://www.patient.info site to seek help, learn about mental illness from the experiences of others and offer words of support when I can. I wrote the following in reply to someone who was struggling but was only relying on medication and I thought it might help others.
Anxiety and depression as you may know are all about mood and dealing with emotion, so while medication is great it is only a tool. What you have to do is help yourself. I like to describe mental illness as a journey, its long, hard and some days it rains, some days its sunny. when we stop on our journey and give in we sit in the rain or get burned by the sun, either way we are in pain as long as we sit. when we move it still rains and the sun still burns but drugs are like a unbrella that can reduce some of the discomfort.
So in this example the best thing you can do is reach your goal, and to do that you need to motivate yourself, the umbrella will only do so much for so long.
Self help comes in many forms but mostly it centers around learning to control your mind and emotions, mindfulness helps you stay present and grounded, meditation (my choice) helps you learn to clear your mind, CBT helps you in many ways but is goal orientated. Self hypnosis helps you change your thought habits, so there is so much more than medication. A bit of internet research and give each a try to see what fits you. what matters most is that you are using the strength within you to help yourself. We can give you support and encouragement, doctors can give you medication and counselling but at the end of the day, you have to use these tools for you.